Meeting a mate and falling in love with them gives us a sense of communion and the gift of seeing ourselves through another's eyes. We feel desired, appreciated and complete.
Once courtship is over and we have committed ourselves to one another, it can be surprising—even frightening—when conflict arises. This is natural. It is unrealistic to believe another person (with their own life experiences and personal history) will relate and react to life's events in the same way as ourselves.
It is by successfully navigating through this difficult phase in our relationship and remaining connected with one another that we are able to heal the emotional scars. This healing process can take place through relationship counselling.